Ah HAH!

I have a ponder I have been pondering for a LONG time. Kinda on along the same lines as some of the previous posts. The whole judging business. Of course God says not to so therefore one shouldn't, but I have been thinking about some of the reasons why it's a really bad idea. The best solution is to see people as God sees them. Perfect. This is what I have decided for myself to help me not to keep falling for judging people. When we make a judgment about someone, it effects everything we think about them. This is actually a crippling effect for the person but is often defended as "guarding oneself". If I meet someone who is extremely codependent, it's considered "wise" to keep your distance so as to not protect you and them. The ONLY way that is wisdom is if God specifically tells you to do that. The reality is you are confirming that as part of their identity to them making it more difficult to see the real identity they have in Christ.

I was once told that I was just acting kind doing expressions i see as love because I was codependent and this person told me they didn't want that kind of relationship. The truth is that the person who told me that was codependent on people and trying to get out of being that way themselves. (You can sometimes tell someone is struggling with something bc they 1- Defend it without needing to or 2- Project that one you.) I didn't know any better so I took it and that lie absolutly messed me up for a LONG time! I didn't know what codependent meant, but as time passed, i realized that it wasn't true and that they had written on my heart by me accepting what they said rather then what God said about me and I eventually repented. Even if what they said was true, it wouldn't make this different. Even if I was co-dependent, that was judging me. Now a big question... do I hold them responsible... no. Blaming them gives them a power in my own head and it's also the same as judging them. I CHOOSE to see them as God sees them. Perfect. Now, when I see them, I don't think "They are messed up in _____ way" Nor do i think i can try and help them, I can appreciate them for who they really are, treat them that way, let them see my actions as affirmations of God's love working in their hearts, and proving how not all relationships are co-dependent!

I have decided that if I have time to figure out what is going on with he people around me, I am not using my time wisely and it's not what God wants. If I am CONSTANTLY listening for the Lord's directions, then every second of my time is gonna be in His will. I must face it, discussing other people, is a waist of everybody's time and it actually says much MUCH more about me then I would want anybody to know.

If our God looked at us like that, we wouldn't have been worth saving. And if He doesn't see us like that, what gives anybody the right to.

So, I repent from seeing people, EVERYONE, like the world would see them, and just see them as God does, perfect.

From bondage: I see the truth about you.
To Liberty: I see someone I love, nothing more... nothing less.